Wondering what your ex girlfriend is up to right now?  It's natural to be curious about that.  Especially if you used to spend lots of time with her and now,  you don't really spend any time at all with her.  However,  it's not always a good thing to allow yourself to wonder what your ex is up to.  Thinking about her like that all of the time is a clear sign that you are not really dealing with the break up as well as you could be.  This is true for whether you want to get over your ex girlfriend or you want to get back with your ex girlfriend.

Here are some tips that I think will help you if you are wondering about your ex girlfriend too much and you want to get your mind off of her:


1.  Take control of what you are thinking about.

As hard as it might seem to do this at first,  it can and does become easier to do.  You have to control where your mind goes and if you find that you start thinking about your ex girlfriend and you are wondering what she is up to,  snap out of that right away.  This is something that is going to take some effort,  but it will be worth it because as I said before,  you don't want to waste all of your time wondering what she is doing and end up not doing anything yourself.

2.  Indulge yourself in your hobbies for a little while.

If you have anything that you can kind of get lost in and have some fun doing it,  go ahead.  This can range from something like working on a car that you have been meaning to fix up to getting your friends together to hit the basketball courts and have some pick up games.  Whatever hobbies that you can use as a healthy escape,  use them.  

3.  Commit yourself to building up a social circle that you can lean on.

The more people that you have in your life,  the harder it is to find time where you are just sitting around and wondering what your ex girlfriend is doing.  So,  one of the best things that you can do to get your mind off of her is to build up a social circle of family and friends and maybe even potential love interests that you can lean on and do things with so that you don't have that idle time to sit around and wonder what your ex girlfriend is doing and whom she might be with.

You have an ex girlfriend that you think about all of the time,  more than that,  you feel like you still love your ex girlfriend.  However,  there is a catch and that catch is -  you and your ex girlfriend do not live near one another.  She is not just an ex,  she is a long distance ex girlfriend and that does make things a little more difficult.  You are not going to have those opportunities to get face to face time with her like you would if you lived near one another.  So,  knowing that it is going to be harder to get back together with an ex girlfriend purely based on the distance factor,  is it worth it to try and pursue her?

Most of the time,  I am going to have to go with an answer that might surprise you and that answer is... NO.

In most situations,  the distance is just going to be too much of a strain,  too much of an obstacle.  Even GOOD relationships that are going along just fine hit the skids when one person ends up moving away.  So,  to think that you will be able to handle a situation where your ex girlfriend is a long distance AND you are trying to win her back,  most of the time it ends up being a situation that is just too difficult.

You'd be better off finding someone else.

I know,  that might not be the answer that you were hoping for or looking for and you might leave this page looking for another site that is going to promise you that it can be done.  Well,  it can in theory,  so I am sure that you can find a couple here and a couple there that have been able to pull it off.

However,  on the whole,  you are going to find that trying to win back a long distance ex girlfriend is just too hard to do.  You can't really utilize most of the proven strategies that work to win her back.  So,  is it worth it?  In my opinion,  No.  You would be much better off trying to get over your ex girlfriend and finding a new one.  Of course,  it's up to you what you want to do.