It's always going to be hard to get over someone that you loved and who you thought was going to be in your life for the long term.  When you realize that the relationship is over for now and you still feel as though you love your ex girlfriend,  the last thing that you want to do is to make it even harder than it has to be to get over her.  If you won't let it go and you keep thinking about her and you keep imagining what could have been had the two of you never broken up with each other,  you are going to find that it is impossible to get over her.  It is going to be hard,  just don't make it harder than it has to be.

You don't want to end up feeling as though you are the reason why you can't get over your ex girlfriend and get on with your life,  do you?

One of the things that you can do for yourself that is going to make it a lot easier to get over the break up is to be the one who isn't afraid to move on.  Usually,  when dealing with break ups,  it ends up being the guy who is still living in the past and who is still afraid to move on.  Sometimes that is not the case,  but usually it is.  Why not be the one who isn't afraid to move on?  That way,  you won't have to worry about hearing about your ex girlfriend rebounding and feeling insecure because you are still grieving over the break up.  That is one of the hardest things to deal with,  to realize that your ex has move on and you haven't and you can take away that hardship by making a point of being the one who isn't afraid to move on with your life.  The funny thing about this is,  it might be the very thing that makes your ex girlfriend think highly of you again and even makes her feel attracted to you once more.

When you find yourself dating again after a relationship has come to an end,  one of the challenges that you may face is the feeling that you want to dive right back into another relationship and I'd like to take the time to caution you against doing that.  It should come as no surprise that most relationships that come about like that don't last very long and if they do,  they usually are still not the best relationships.  Take the time to really figure out what you want in a girlfriend.  Take the time to figure out what kind of relationship you want to be in.  Don't go and look for someone who reminds you of your ex girlfriend as a way to replace her.  That is usually going to end up turning out a lot different than you imagine.

One of the better things that you can do for yourself is to use this time to get better with women overall.  You might feel like you are already okay with the fairer sex,  but we can all use a little improvement when it comes to attracting women.  The better you are at seducing a woman,  the more likely it is that the next girlfriend will make you look back on the ex girlfriend and wonder what in the hell you were doing with that one in the first place.

It's not always a bad thing to admit that you feel sad about breaking up with your girlfriend.  Admitting that and being able to deal with that reality can actually be good for the soul.  Here is a great video that will make you sad,  but I am sure that you can relate to it.

Your phone vibrates on the table and you pick it up.  You have a new text message and lo and behold,  it happens to be from your ex girlfriend.  You ask yourself,  "if she broke up with me,  why is she still texting me?"  These text messages from your ex girlfriend may give you some hope that she is going to say that it was all a big mistake and that she wants you back,  but that might not be what they mean at all.  You have to realize that just because that is what you want it to mean,  that doesn't mean that it actually means that.

Here is how to handle it if your ex girlfriend is still texting you:


1.  Don't read too much into it.

This is one of the best things that you can do for yourself.  Like I said,  it can be confusing when your ex girlfriend is still texting you and you still feel like you love your ex girlfriend.  That can give you that false sense of hope and make you assume that it must mean that she wants you back.  However,  you don't want to read too much into it just yet.  Giving yourself false hope when there really is nothing to be hopeful about is not going to make you feel any better.

2.  Don't answer her right away.

You don't want your ex girlfriend to think that you are like a puppy on a leash and you'll come whenever she gives you a little tug.  You want her to at least think that you have a life without her and that you are not sitting around,  hoping that she is going to make contact with you.  Even if you only wait an hour or so,  just making her wait a little bit is better than responding right away.

3.  Be friendly when you do text her back.

You don't want to come across as bitter about the break up,  so it is a good thing to text her back in a friendly way.  No "what do you want" kind of messages.  Just ask her what's up and if she asks about you,  just say that you have been kind of busy.  Make her think that you are getting on with your life and you know what?  Actually do put some effort into getting on with your life.

The reality is that just because your ex girlfriend is sending you text messages,  it does not mean that she definitely wants you back.  She may want to see if she still has power over you.  She may be lonely and knows that you'll be around to make her feel less lonely.  Don't read too much into it if your ex girlfriend happens to be sending you text messages because it might not mean a thing.  At least,  not what you want it to mean.